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Helpful Information for Those in Marion County Courts

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I am trying to list some useful links for moms involved in litigation here in Marion County:

Current Marion County Magistrate Assignments, Marion Superior Court

Going Pro Se in Marion Superior Courts (video)

Family Court Information Sheet (required for new filings in Marion County)

Family Court Financial Declaration Form (latest one…08/18/08)

Also, here is a link to help assist with protective orders if needed.  The page with all the updated forms to prepare an application for orders of protection can be found here.  Understand that when protective orders are sought, it is only a piece of paper, they will not stop someone that is out to get you.  And potentially, seeking a protective order when involved in a custody dispute can potentially be used against you.  It is best to seek legal advice when involved in a situation such as this, but make sure you are away from your abuser and safe first!

Visit the Marion County Clerk of Court website for all the forms you need to potentially file.  Included is the civil subpoena form, for bringing witnesses to court for you.  If the filing fee for the case has been paid already (i.e. someone already filed for divorce), you may take a filled out civil subpoena form to the Clerk’s office (City-County Building downtown, Room W122) and file at no cost to you.  They will have them served to your witness, also at no cost. 

For those who have already been screwed by the family courts here, you only have 30 days to file notice of appeal.  If you can’t afford the typically $10,000 the lawyers want around here to just begin the process, here is a helpful link to look into.  Don’t be afraid to appeal…what is horrible is when a bad decision isn’t appealed, you and your children have to live with this decision until he practically kills the children, then maybe you might have a chance to change custody if they survive.

As always, it is best to seek legal advice from a qualified lawyer, but most of us can’t afford this.  Hopefully these links will help assist you in your situation.

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April 30, 2009 at 3:51 pm

Resources for Moms Around Indianapolis: Where to Call for Help

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From WTHR’s Community Page:

 

Where to Call for Help with Domestic Abuse

Where to Call for Help with Domestic Violence

24-Hour Hotlines

Domestic Violence Network of Greater Indianapolis Navigation Hub: “HELPLINE/2-1-1” at 317-926-HELP (4357)

Indiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-332-7385

Domestic Violence 205-HOPE

Crisis and Suicide Intervention Service 251-7575

National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE
1-800-787-3224 (TDD)

Emergency and Law Enforcement

Emergency 911
Marion County Sheriff’s Department Victim Assistance 231-8124
Indianapolis Police Department Victim Assistance 327-3331
Adult Protective Services 1-800-992-6978
Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-800-5556
Center of Hope at Wishard Hospital ER 633-HOPE
VINE (Marion County Jail Release Notification) 1-800-278-8134
Marion County Prosecutor’s Office 327-8500

Advocacy, Support Groups and Counseling

Breaking Free 1-888-254-8988
Julian Center 941-2200
Family Advocacy Center 327-6900
Family Service 634-6341
Legacy House 554-5272
Prevail 773-6942
Wishard Hispanic Health Project 630-6636
Fresh Start of Indiana 541-1655

Resources for Families and Children

Prevent Child Abuse Indiana 1-800-CHILDREN
Indiana Family Helpline 1-800-433-0746
Family Support Center 634-5050
Teen Link Hotline 255-TEEN

Legal Assistance

Indiana Legal Services, Inc. 631-9410
Legal Aid Society 635-9538
Protective Order Pro Bono Project 638-7672

Financial Help

HELPLINE (Information and Referral) 926-4357
TANF/Medicaid/Medicare 931-2920

Shelters and Transitional Housing

Salvation Army / Ruth Lilly Center 317-637-5551
Julian Center Shelter 317-920-9320
Holy Family Shelter 317-635-7830
WINGS 317-251-7575
Queen of Peace 317-916-6753
Coburn Place Safe Haven (transitional housing) 923-5750

Produced by the Domestic Violence Network of Greater Indianapolis (317) 475-6110

 

 

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April 30, 2009 at 3:08 pm

Governor Daniels: Here is Some Background on the So-called “Parental Alienation Syndrome”

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From Battered Moms Lose Children to Abusers:

In 1985, PAS was first described by Richard Gardner, a psychiatrist who wrote that adults having sex with children is not a bad thing.[1]

 

Gardner described PAS as a “syndrome” whereby vengeful mothers employed child abuse allegations as a powerful weapon to punish ex-husbands and ensure custody to themselves.[2]  He further theorized that such protective parents enlisted the children in their “campaign of denigration” and “vilification” of the abuser, that they often “brainwashed” or “programmed” the children into believing untrue claims of abuse by the father, and that the children then fabricated and contributed their own stories.[3]

 

To distance themselves from the discredited theory and its embarrassing originator, proponents of Parental Alienation Awareness Day sometimes claim that Parental Alienation Syndrome and parental alienation are different.  In reality, they are often used synonymously and the consequences can be dire.  Children can end up in the custody of their abusers.   

 

Since 1985, abusers have come to convince family courts to ignore children’s allegations of abuse by invoking parental alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome.  They wrongly claim that mothers are to blame because they are brainwashing their children. 

 

PAS WIDELY DISCREDITED

 

1996 – The Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family discredited the theory.  It stated:

Although there are no data to support the phenomenon called parental alienation syndrome, in which protective parents are blamed for interfering with their children’s attachment to their abusers, the term is still used by some evaluators and courts to discount children’s fears in hostile and psychologically abusive situations.[4] Family courts often do not consider the history of violence between the parents in making custody and visitation decisions. . . . Psychological evaluators not trained in domestic violence may contribute to this process by ignoring or minimizing the violence and by giving inappropriate pathological labels to women’s responses to chronic victimization. Terms such as “parental alienation” may be used to blame the women for the children’s reasonable fear of or anger toward their violent abuser.[5]

 

2003 – The National District Attorneys Association’s Center for Prosecution of Child Abuse discredited the theory.  It stated:

Although PAS may be hailed as a “syndrome” . . . in fact it is the product of anecdotal evidence gathered from Dr. Gardner’s own practice. […] PAS is based primarily upon two notions, neither of which has a foundation in empirical research. […] PAS is an untested theory that, unchallenged, can have far-reaching consequences for children seeking protection and legal vindication in courts of law.”[6]

 

 

2006 – The American Bar Association’s Children’s Legal Rights Journal discredited the theory.  It stated:

PAS’s twenty-year run in American courts is an embarrassing chapter in the history of evidentiary law. It reflects the wholesale failure of legal professionals entrusted with evidentiary gate-keeping intended to guard legal processes from the taint of pseudo-science…. As a matter of science, law, and policy PAS should remain inadmissible in American courts.[7]

 


2006 – The
National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges also discredited the theory.  It stated:

The discredited “diagnosis” of “PAS” (or allegation of “parental alienation”), quite apart from its scientific invalidity, inappropriately asks the court to assume that the children’s behaviors and attitudes toward the parent who claims to be “alienated” have no grounding in reality. It also diverts attention away from the behaviors of the abusive parent, who may have directly influenced the children’s responses by acting in violent, disrespectful, intimidating, humiliating and/or discrediting ways toward the children themselves, or the children’s other parent.[8]

 

 

CONSEQUENCES

 

One of the most troubling consequences of Gardner’s theory is that, “PAS shifts attention away from the perhaps dangerous behaviour of the parent seeking custody to that of the custodial parent. This person, who may be attempting to protect the child, is instead presumed to be lying and poisoning the child.”[9]

 

As a result, some children placed in the custody of their abusers have committed suicide; others have run away, and countless others have endured the abuse and are permanently traumatized.  In recent years, children placed in custody of their abusers have been coming forward to tell their stories and to warn of the danger surrounding the fictitious syndrome.[10]

 


[2] Gardner, 1992a; 1992b

[3] (Gardner, 1992b, p. 162, 193; 2002, pp. 94-95). – Meier, J. (2009, January). Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation: Research Reviews. Harrisburg, PA: VAWnet, a project of the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence/Pennsylvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Retrieved 3/10/2009, from: http://www.vawnet.org

[4] Pg 40

[5] Pg 100

[9] Bruch, Carol S., Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation: getting It Wrong in Child Custody Case in Child and Family Law Quarterly, Vol 14, No 4, 2002: 384.

[10] http://www.courageouskids.net

 

 

Our Governor Daniels has proclaimed April 25th as Parental Alienation Awareness Day.  I don’t believe this good, decent man would have signed off on this if he wouldn’t have been duped.  Duped by the simplified process to get a Proclamation here, which is an online process.  This can’t happen again!

 

See:  Our New Letter for the Press: The “Parental Alienation Awareness” Scam gets our Governor Mitch Daniels, It is Easy to Get a Day Proclaimed Anything in Indiana, Even for Pedophiles: Governor Mitch Daniels has been Duped by the Simplified Process!, Governor Daniels, While You Are Embracing “Parental Alienation” Other States Are Trying To Outlaw It, Governor Mitch Daniels Makes HUGE Mistake, and Dear Governor Mitch Daniels of Indiana

 

Help Get Justice For Little Katelynn

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JUSTICE FOR KATELYNN
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katelynn

Published by Indiana’s Shame Teardrops For Katelynn on Feb 22, 2005
Category: Children’s Rights
Region: United States of America
Target: teardropsforkatelynn@hotmail.com
Background (Preamble):
Indiana’s Shame Teardrops for Katelynn

Sugar and spice and everything nice.

This is suppose to be every little girls life.

What happens when life is not like that?

What if the people who are suppose to protect you fill your life with constant abuse?

For little Katelynn of Indiana, her life is filled with this from a father, stepmother and father’s family; everyone but her the relatives that love her have been denied the ability to see her.

Note : this DOES NOT include 500+ additional pages of evidence

1996:

* Separate from abuser after assault by abuser.

* Little daughter returned by abuser hurt sees family doctor.

* Abuser assaults me and kids while trying to abducted little daughter.

* Police statements taken.

* Arrest warranted issued for abuser and protection order put in place. Other court Excludes little daughter from protection order.

* Abuser arrested outstanding bench warrant found in next county abuser extradited.

* Mninster of abusers church bails him out.

* File for divorce and temporary custody granted to me and restraining order placed Against abuser little daughter excluded from restraining order.

* Request Guardian Ad Litem for little daughter.

* Ad litem submits report recommends abuser vistis every weekend. Judge grants

1996:

* Temporary Order issued

1998:

* Letter from Domestic violence counselor abuser refuses contact via phone or in Person. Court does nothing.

1999:

* Little daughter crying of owie in butt from girlfriends son.

* Little daughter seen by family physician, refers to sexual abuse hospital.

* Little daughter is seen at sexual abuse hospital.

* Little daughter returned crying abuser’s girlfriend slapped in face, spanked repeadly for pottying in pants and is jerked out of bed. Little daughter seeing child psychololgist

* Little daughter returned crying is hurt when abuser and girlfriend involve little daughter in domestic violence fight. Abuser and girlfriend separate.

There is SO MUCH MORE TO THIS LIST.  This poor Indiana mother has endured much, and has been punished by the courts for trying to help her child.  SHAME ON INDIANA’S COURTS!
To see the full list, and to sign the petition, please visit the Petition Website.

Our thoughts are with Katelynn and her mom, Teardrops for Katelynn.

Our New Letter for the Press: The “Parental Alienation Awareness” Scam gets our Governor Mitch Daniels

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Call to Father's Rights folks on antimisandry.com

Call to Father's Rights folks on antimisandry.com

Governor Daniels has proclaimed April 25th as “Parental Alienation Awareness Day.”  We were shocked that he would sign off on this.  According to the inventor of this syndrome, Dr. Richard Gardner, children who have been subjected to sexual abuse should be taught to masturbate after the abuse stops, and mothers and daughters should make use of vibrators to manage the abuse from a father, as published by Dr. Gardner.

Father’s Rights groups have been running throughout the country this year trying to get governors to sign off on this egregious claim used in courts. Indiana has a very simplified online system that allowed the governor to be easily duped by this. Did Governor Daniels know that California and Tennessee have bills in their legislatures this spring to outlaw the claim of this in custody hearings? Did he know that Parental Alienation Syndrome is not recognized by any professional body and is generally used as a tool in an abuser’s toolbox to gain custody of the children?

These groups try very hard to get proclamations…they need some kind of endorsement. By signing, the website states the governor does not necessarily endorse. But our courts here eat this stuff up.

Mothers of Lost Children, Indianapolis

 

It is Easy to Get a Day Proclaimed Anything in Indiana, Even for Pedophiles: Governor Mitch Daniels has been Duped by the Simplified Process!

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Just how easy was it to get our Governor Mitch Daniels to sign the Proclamation of April 25th as “Parental Alienation Awareness Day?”  I went on a search for this…how could he be so easily scammed?  Well, look how easy it is for ANYONE to get a day proclaimed something, from the State of Indiana website:

Request a Proclamation

Proclamations are provided by the Governor’s Office as a service to Indiana residents with the goal of honoring and celebrating events or increasing awareness of noteworthy issues among citizens across Indiana. These public service documents are strictly honorary and are not legally binding. Proclamations are reviewed on a case-by-case basis. The Governor’s Office reserves the right to decline any request for a proclamation as well as the right to make exceptions to the Guidelines Procedures for Proclamations. To submit an application for a proclamation, please review the Guidelines below and submit a completed Application for Proclamation Form.

Here is an example of a signed proclamation.

Guidelines and Procedures

  • Proclamations should recognize a day or week.   The Governor’s Office reserves the right to deny month-long proclamations.
  • Proclamations are issued for one date only per request for each calendar year.
  • Requests must be submitted using the electronic form below; phone, fax and mail requests will not be honored.
  • Any draft language submitted may be edited or revised without notice at the discretion of the Governor’s Office.
  • Proclamations must hold statewide significance; out of state requests will not be processed.
  • Proclamations are not issued to honor individuals.
  • Only one official copy of a proclamation is provided. If a duplicate is requested, the first request will be honored at no cost. Any subsequent copies will be prepared at a charge of $5.00 each.
  • Proclamations are not automatically renewed. Requests must be made on an annual basis.
  • Requests that are similar to already issued proclamations will be denied.
  • No proclamations may be used as part of an advertisement or commercial promotion without express permission from the Governor’s Office.
  • Issuance of a proclamation does not constitute an endorsement by the Governor.
  • Requests must be submitted 6-8 weeks in advance of the requested delivery date. Requests recieved less than 2 weeks in advance of the requested delivery date will be denied.

 Date(s) of Proclamation:

Examples: August 5, 2007; August 20-27, 2007; or  August 2007

 Deadline for Proclamation:

Examples: August 5, 2007

 Purpose of Proclamation:

 Draft Language of Proclamation: (including 4-6 Whereas clauses)

 Additional Comments/Feedback:

Notification Preference Please select an option:Mail

This is a shame, a total shame, to have a day honoring a syndrome invented by a pedophile-loving psychologist, a syndrome not recognized by any professional body, a tool in the abuser’s toolbox to get custody away from his victim in court, and the courts in Indiana EAT THIS STUFF UP!

See also:  Governor Daniels, While You Are Embracing “Parental Alienation” Other States Are Trying To Outlaw It and Dear Governor Mitch Daniels of Indiana

Governor Daniels, While You Are Embracing “Parental Alienation” Other States Are Trying To Outlaw It

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Yes, Governor Daniels.  You may have been fooled by the Father’s Rights folks that push this, but you didn’t receive the “whole truth.”  Tennessee and California are trying to have claims of “parental alienation” banned in custody cases:

Tennessee HB 0322

Child Custody and Support – As introduced, abolishes the common law tort of parental alienation; prohibits parental alienation syndrome from being a factor to consider in a child custody dispute; and prohibits the use of a claim of parental alienation by a parent who has been found to be the perpetrator of child abuse to rebut the presumption that it is detrimental to the child to award custody to such parent. – Amends TCA Title 36.

California:  Several bills seek to reform family courts

Assemblyman Jim Beall, D-San Jose, has introduced a bill that would ban the use of “non-scientific theories” in court cases. This bill would prevent the use of a theory called “parental alienation syndrome,” or PAS. This is the idea that one parent seeks to alienate a child against the other parent, leading them to level untrue accusations of abuse or neglect.

“We want to change a harmful family court practice that apparently has gone unchecked for some time, resulting in innocent children being improperly placed,” Beall said. “This legislation requires family courts to follow the legal principals of accepted evidence. The bill ensures pseudo ‘syndromes’ are not used in custody determinations.”
While both mothers and fathers have leveled charges of PAS in custody cases, widespread anecdotal evidence suggests that it has more often been argued by fathers. Several fathers’ rights groups say PAS is real. However, it is not generally accepted by the psychiatric community.

Assembly majority leader Alberto Torrico, D-Fremont, said that he also may carry legislation. While he said budget negotiations have been taking up most of his time, he has submitted language to Legislative Counsel which would establish statewide standards for family court custody evaluations.

“That’s something we’re looking at to make sure we’re placing kids in the best, safest environment.”

Several other unbacked bills would seek to address other problems with family courts, said Kathleen Russell, staff consultant with the CJE. Among these ideas: allowing children to testify on their own behalf; removing the immunity of judges and court employees from being sued for misconduct; changing the law so court employees are subject to the California Whistleblowers Protection Act; charging courts, rather than parents, to pay for custody evaluators in order level the playing field between ex-spouses with disparate resources; and mandating that custody evaluators receive the standard 24 hour training curriculum on child sexual abuse put forth by the American Bar Association’s Center on Children and the Law.

“Children are being placed in dangerous homes without protection,” Russell said. “It’s reached epidemic proportions. We couldn’t be more pleased to have legislators step up to the plate.”

Russell just returned from a trip to Washington, D.C., where she and other advocates met with legislators, including members of the California delegation. She said she expects federal legislation to be coming soon. Because the federal government heavily underwrites family court costs in the states, it has a great deal of leverage to impose greater standards and consistency.

“We’re looking at the federal flow of funds to the state courts,” Russell said. “That is where the feds can intervene.”

Please, Governor Daniels, remove this proclamation of “Parental Alienation Awarenss Day” on April 25th as it only services and enables abusive parents to claim this in court to take total control of children away from good parents.  Other states realize this, it is time Indiana does too.

Also see:  Dear Governor Mitch Daniels of Indiana and Governor Mitch Daniels Makes HUGE Mistake,

Whores of the Court: If you can’t get the Mother on “Parental Alienation” then get Grandma on “Grandparent Alienation”

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When will the madness stop!  When will these claims of “parental alienation” stop!  They run rampant here in Indiana also…our Governor Daniels also falling for the scam of so-called “parental alienation.”  This story is from an ongoing history with a Whore of the Court in California that specializes using “parental alienation” to remove children from mothers and give to abusive and/or neglectful fathers, or fathers who just want to get out of paying child support.

Listen to WIBC-93.1 FM, Freedom 95.9 FM, or The Fan 1070 AM, and an hour doesn’t go by without the “domestic law firm” of Cordell and Cordell advertising “to protect men’s interests” in divorce.  They don’t have to work hard here in Indiana.  Many children have been ripped unwillingly from their mothers here, and it is just getting worse.  The Indiana Commission on Judicial Qualifications recently warned they are tired of the corruption in family courts in Indiana, BUT THEY DON”T DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT.

UPDATE: Janelle Burrill or her agents have been lurking here, but you will find the story in the title elsewhere on the internet, just google it.

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Governor Mitch Daniels Makes HUGE Mistake

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Our Governor has chosen to officially proclaim April 25th as “Parental Alienation Awareness Day,” a day promoted by abusive fathers seeking to remove children from their mothers, and pedophile-loving psychologists and court officials. (See Open Letter to Governor Daniels below).   How sad that our governor was so easily duped by these scam artists promoting this.

See:  Dear Governor Mitch Daniels of Indiana

Dear Governor Mitch Daniels of Indiana

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Dear Governor Daniels,

Many Father’s Rights groups are running in a rabid-like fashion throughout the country trying to get governors to proclaim April 25th as “Parental Alienation Awareness Day.”  Some of these Father’s Rights groups are fronts for abusive men, who seek to get custody of their children away from the mothers.  They will use the rouse of “share-parenting” as a starting point, then seek to remove the mother totally in a continued attack in court.  Not all fathers in these groups are “abusive.”  These groups go out and look for good fathers who have lost custody and are alone and fall easy for these group’s mantra.  They grow their ranks and try and look respectable.  But the ones that yell the loudest in these group are the abusers.

There are many Father’s Rights supporters here in Indiana…after all, this is the home of the Fatherhood Initiative (thanks to Senator Evan Bayh).  By using claims of “parental alienation” in the courts in Indiana, many abusive fathers manage to get full custody of the children.  Some states, specifically Tennessee and California are seeking to pass legislation this year to stop the use of claiming “parental alienation” in court when dealing in child custody situations.  Can you image what it is like for a child to end up with the parent they saw abuse their parent who protected them, possibly never to see them again?  It happens all the time here in Indiana. 

The use of “parental alienation” has happened to many of us in our group.  The courts will be quick to dismiss claims of domestic violence in court, but will fall for this so-called “syndrome”, which is not recognized by any professional body, and has been widely criticized by many top psychologists.

This except from a newspaper article in Los Angeles explains the problem well:

Parental Alienation Syndrome, which has no scientific basis whatsoever, is most often used against women in custody cases including by ex-husbands with documented histories of domestic violence against their ex-wife and/or children.  It does not mean “alienated parent” as the author above implies, it means that a parent, usually a mother, is being accused in court of alienating her child or children from their father by being truthful about the danger they pose to their child’s physical safety or the mother’s safety.  Courts seem to love the made up syndrome as an excuse to give custody rights or shared custody to men who have abused their wives and/or children, but until now there has been no official status for this made up syndrome.  If it makes it into the DSM’s next version, divorce lawyers and abusive divorcing spouses will have even more ability to continue to abuse their exes through the courts and to put their children in danger in some cases.  Women will continue to be labelled hysterical for reacting normally to horrible experiences such as discovering their children have been sexually abused by their father but now there will be so called scientific backing for these made up claims in court. 

Up for inclusion again is making women’s menstrual cycles into a psychiatric condition also.  We now have many more women psychiatrists than we did when the first DSM came out, why do women continue to be the target of sexist and destructive labelling by the American Psychiatric Association behind closed doors even so?  While there is a dearth of concern about psychiatry and its destructive effect on women over the ages today, nothing like the great work that was done in the ’70’s and 80’s is out there now and in fact many feminist blogs are guilty of the same continuation of prejudice against people with psychiatric labels as the rest of society, forgetting their history altogether in my personal opinion, maybe the threat to custody of children will start to wake feminists up to the destructive and continuing sexist power of psychiatry over the lives of women in the United States.

Dr. Richard Gardner, the inventor of “parental alienation syndrome”, isn’t with us anymore…he committed suicide.  But here are just a few of the outrageous statements that Dr. Gardner has written in his own books published by his own vanity press: 

  • “Pertinent to my theory here is that pedophilia also serves procreative purposes. Obviously, it does not serve such purposes on the immediate level in that children cannot become pregnant nor can they make others pregnant.  (WTF!)
  • However, the child who is drawn into sexual encounters at an early age is likely to become highly sexualized and crave sexual experiences during the prepubertal years. Such a “charged up child” is more likely to become sexually active after puberty and more likely, therefore, to transmit his or her genes to his or her progeny at an early age.
  • The younger the survival machine at the time sexual urges appear, the longer will be the span of procreative capacity, and the greater the likelihood the individual will create more survival machines in the next generation. The ideal then – from DNA’s point of view – is for the child to be sexually active very early, to have a highly sexualized childhood, and begin the time of puberty. This increases the likelihood that more survival machines will be produced for the next generation. (…)
  • This reflects society’s repression of the animal within us: a male animal who has the potential for rape and a female animal who, by merely a small extension of permissible attitudes, may become masochistic – thereby gaining sexual pleasure from being beaten, bound and otherwise made to suffer. It may very well be that, for some masochistic women, allowing themselves to be beaten into submission is the price they are willing to pay for gaining the gratification of receiving the sperm.” (!!!!!)
  • Gardner’s sociobiologist ideology has him endorse all “paraphilias” (merely atypical sexual behaviors) as “serving the purposes of species survival” by “their ability to enhance the general level of sexual excitation in society and thereby increase the likelihood that people will involve themselves in activities that are more directly contributory to the reproductive (and by extension, species survival) process”.
  • This extends not only to pedophilia but even to zoophilia and, yes, necrophilia. In the same essay Gardner writes: “Yet, the necrophiliac is still keeping (the likelihood) of heterosexual involvement with a person who is more likely to conceive.”
  • Gardner says that “the mother’s own suppressed and repressed sexual fantasies are projected onto the child and father. By visualizing the father having a sexual experience with the child, the mother is satisfying vicariously her own desires to be the recipient of such overtures and activities.”
  • According to Gardner, 90% of “alienators” are women(Bingo)
  • “In custody litigation,…the vast majority of children who profess sexual abuse are fabricators.”
  • ”What I am against is the excessively moralistic and punitive reaction that many members of our society have toward pedophiles … (going) far beyond what I consider to be the gravity of the crime.”
  • “…there is a bit of pedophilia in every one of us.”  (Oh really)
  • When a child has been sexually abused and feels guilt about it, Gardner suggests, the child may be helped to appreciate that “sexual encounters between an adult and a child are not universally considered to be reprehensible acts. The child might be told about other societies in which such behavior was and is considered normal.” If sexual urges continue after the abuse ends, Gardner suggests such children be encouraged to masturbate.
  • As for the alienating mother, Gardner suggests that vibrators can be useful and “one must try to overcome any inhibition she may have with regard to their use.” (WTF! Really, WTF!)
    . . . . An apparent benefit of the mother’s use of a vibrator is that “her diminished guilt over masturbation will make it easier for her to encourage the practice in her daughter, if this is warranted.” With this imagined solution, Gardner believes, the mother’s “increased sexuality may lessen the need for her husband to return to their daughter for sexual gratification.”   (Again…WTF!  These are the beliefs of these “parental alienation” people, Governor Daniels)

All of the above quotes are from Gardner’s self-published True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse: A Guide for Legal and Mental Health Professionals, Creative Therapeutics, 1992, as reprinted in Ralph Underwager’s self-published journal “Issues in Child Abuse Accusations”, Spring 1993, pp. 115-118, under the title “A Theory About the Variety of Human Sexual Behavior” and Richard A. Gardner, M.D. , The Parental Alienation Syndrome (1992).

So please, Governor Daniels, please don’t fall for this scam.  And the next time are out, look for us mothers who are homeless, being beaten down by use of this syndrome, leaving us penniless to fight anymore.  The abusive fathers in Indiana are winning here and it has to stop!

Also see:  Governor Daniels, While You Are Embracing “Parental Alienation” Other States Are Trying To Outlaw It

5-month-old died Sunday while in foster care; mom might take legal action

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From The Indianapolis Star:

Posted: April 2, 2009

Police say the death this past weekend of a 5-month-old Indianapolis foster child was an accident, but the boy’s mother said Wednesday she blames the Department of Child Services and the baby’s foster parents.

Mason Brown

Mason Brown

Jamie Dukate, 23, said she is considering legal action as a result of the death Sunday of her son, Mason Brown.  “The foster parents were being paid by the state to take care of my son, supposedly better than I could, and now he’s gone,” she said.

Mason was found unconscious Sunday morning in a crib at a foster home in the 5500 block of West Ohio Street.  Dukate said Mason had been placed with foster parents Bryan and Amy Alexander in November after being removed from her because of neglect allegations.  DCS spokeswoman Ann Houseworth said state confidentiality rules prohibited her from commenting, other than to confirm that the Alexanders are licensed foster parents “in good standing with the department.”  A call to the Alexanders from The Star was not returned Wednesday.

DCS has opened an investigation into Mason’s death, which is standard policy when a child dies unexpectedly, Houseworth said.  Sgt. Matthew Mount, a spokesman for the Indianapolis Metropolitan Police Department, said police investigated the death and determined it was likely the result of sudden infant death syndrome.  The Marion County coroner’s office is working to determine the cause of death, which could take several weeks.

Mason was found unconscious in his crib by Bryan Alexander when he checked on the child Sunday morning, according to a police report. The report says Mason had vomit on his face and was blue. Mason was pronounced dead at the house.

Bryan Alexander, who described Mason as “a healthy baby,” told police the boy was placed in his crib about 11 p.m. Saturday.  The report says Amy Alexander woke about 2 a.m. to Mason’s crying, but she apparently did not check on him. It says: “She thought he had fallen back to sleep” because the crying “lasted only momentarily.”

Since October 2007, Mason is at least the 12th Indiana child to die who was involved in an active or recently closed DCS case, or was the subject of a recent report to the agency.

Posted: April 2, 2009

Listen to the Mothers! Listen to the Mothers!

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From The Liz Library:

NOTE TO THE MEDIA: Trag·e·dy (trj-d) n. pl. trag·e·dies – 1. A drama or literary work in which the main character is brought to ruin or suffers extreme sorrow, especially as a consequence of a tragic flaw, moral weakness, or inability to cope with unfavorable circumstances…


THESE CASES ARE NOT “TRAGEDIES”. THEY ARE
OUTRAGES:

jackandduncanconnollyLEICHTENBERG-CONNOLLY CASE, McLean County, Illinois. March 31, 2009: “Jack and Duncan Connolly’s mother, Amy Leichtenberg, blames Judge James Souk for allowing her ex-husband to have unsupervised visitation with her boys and for her sons’ deaths. Now, she and her friends are taking action. ‘She knew this was his intentions from the beginning because it was never about the boys it was to hurt her and she told the judge that, she told him and he didn’t listen… It is his fault these boys are gone, it is definitely Judge Souk’s fault,’ Tuley said. ‘He single-handedly handed down an order for Michael to have visitations with those boys unsupervised and because of it they’re dead.’ …”

See: Family of Slain LeRoy Boys Wants Judge Held Accountable, 2 boys found dead; mom rips the courts

Bad laws, bad decisions, bad judges, bad experts, bad ethics, bad ideas, and other things that are BAD FOR CHILDREN

“Amy Leichtenberg worried this day would come, and she begged the judicial system to prevent it. In court documents dating back to 2005, she detailed her estranged husband’s threats against her family and fought unsuccessfully to keep him from having unsupervised visits with their two sons…”

And yet more: Did Justice System Fail?

David Lynch, the local prosecutor is quoted as saying, apologia: “I doubt very much that the judge failed in this case” and “A court cannot stop a visitation unless it finds the visitation would be dangerous to the child’s mental, moral or physical health” and “A judge is going to say look at what happened to those two kids. Should I be overly restrictive to a very good parent because they might be that one in 10-thousand or one in 100,000.” Somebody please ask Mr. Lynch how the hell he could possibly describe a man with a history of being this much of an abusive asshole toward his wife as a “very good parent”.

This is the crux of the problem. These men are most assuredly NOT “very good parents” and it’s time the courts stopped automatically granting men the benefit of the doubt while doubting the credibility and motives of the women who know them best and who also happen to be the people who care the most about the children.

Oh yes… a psych most assuredly did opine in this case, in the usual way, that Connolly was not a threat to himself or the children. Useless. The same guys who claim women emotionally abuse kids by “alienating” them from abusive men — and then have little problem removing children from the custody of their mothers — speciously fret and hand-wring over paternal rights and strained make-believe arguments that the children will suffer some kind of harm if they don’t get lots of time with fathers — and oh, it’s all the women’s fault because she’s not letting him see the children. (It was something else she must have done that provoked his prior abusive behavior against the mother when that excuse wouldn’t have worked)…

“According to the records, a Bloomington psychiatrist found in April 2008 that Connolly was depressed and unable to work because of ‘his inability to see his children under normal conditions.’ …a month later, the psychiatrist said in an evaluation submitted to McLean County Judge James Souk that Connolly did not seem suicidal or homicidal. Souk awarded Connolly unsupervised visits.”

See: Court papers: Ill. dad violated visitation rules

OUTRAGE!

Difficult? It’s not that difficult. Listen to the women. Stop granting depressed, obsessive, and/or control-freak abusive men visitation or “timeshare” rights. Listen to the mothers. Listen to the mothers. Listen to the mothers. Stop assuming that the default positions in custody cases are that women are unstable vindictive crackpots, and that men are being unfairly badmouthed. Father’s attorney Todd Roseberry is, of course, surprised.

Good for McHenry County Judge Suzanne C. Mangiamele who took the claims seriously enough that while the divorce case was pending before her, Connolly received only supervised visitation. But why was he getting any visitation at all? The man repeatedly had threatened to kill the children’s mother, as well as others. Leichtenberg’s attorney, Elizabeth Vonau, said “Everybody knew he was capable of this. There were repeated threats he would harm her, repeated threats he would get back at her and harm the children or take them from her.”

See: Boys killed downstate lived troubled lives in Algonquin, records show, Court Papers: Ill. Dad Violated Visitation Rules

Connolly never hurt Leichtenberg or their sons but scared her because he called often, sometimes threatening suicide and other times trying to intimidate her or persuade her to come back to him…” He “never hurt her”? What? Of course he did! He threatened her life and abused her for years through the courts. That should have been enough. These mothers are not vindictive crackpots, and it’s not mothers in the news day after day after day who prove they are the lunatics by hurting other people. These mothers are the persons in the world who love the children best and who know the father best. The mothers. Not the psychs, your honors. Really. Women don’t keep children from helpful, supportive men who aren’t threatening to take custody, harm them physically, harm the children, or harm the mothers’ abilities to properly care and provide for their children.

“Connolly benefited from a system designed to overlook past indiscretions in favor of giving children a chance to maintain relationships with both parents… he bamboozled people. He was cagey and manipulative.”

See: Connolly slayings: Father played the legal game in effort to visit with 2 sons

Giving “the children” a chance? Now they are dead. Let’s stop with the euphemisms and pretexts. These are bad laws. Amy Leichtenberg and her children were failed by bad laws that serve primarily to give men rights. Mothers don’t seem to be able to “work the system” this way, because they aren’t believed, they frequently are the upset attached parent, they often have far less funds to litigate, and it’s just a father-lovin’ mother-denigrating world. “Leichtenberg spent the last four years documenting what she considered to be dangerous behavior.”

Listen to the mothers. Listen to the mothers. Listen to the mothers. Leichtenberg pleaded — pleaded — with the judge. What the f— did he think she was so worked up about? Did he discount her as some kind of “woman scorned”? She was the one who left Connolly. (Women usually are the ones who leave.) What kind of inherently misogynistic attitude leads people to hold these biased perceptions that they don’t even realize they hold. Women beg these judges… out of lunacy? vindictiveness? Hysteria? Weakness of mind? Some kind of pathetic “enmeshment” with the kids? Because they can’t handle life? To get those juicy big child custody awards that so often go unpaid anyway? Just another “high conflict custody case”?

No. That’s projecting onto women the motives and thought processes of these abusive men. That’s what these MEN believe they would do were tables turned. They believe this way because they are not mothers. And judges often rule as they do because for one reason or another, they just don’t like the litigating mother as a person as much as they like the man — as if this is relevant to what’s in kids’ interests. It’s a mother-hating, woman-disrespecting world. Doesn’t help when she’s got reason to be stressed, harassed, made crazy and angry. (The court whores of course also will bias toward whoever is the more compliant person who likes them best, i.e. is most willing to pay them, but in the rare case that is the mother, that only tends to correct the pervasive pro-male bias.)

Your honor, if some litigant who had come before you behaved toward you in the manner this man behaved, threatened your life and so forth, would you be inclined to hire him — EVER — to care for YOUR children? Would you be saying “Well, even though he threatened to slit my throat six months ago, and violated restraining orders umpteen times, now he has a job and a rented apartment, so that must mean he’s okay; he can have my kids for the weekend.” Do the effin’ rules of reality change when it’s other people? Or is it just that we’re too damn enrenched in the delusional ideas of sperm rights and women’s wrongs in this world.

See, at The Liz Library WILL HE KILL?
and BUSTING THE FATHERHOOD MYTH
and MYTHS AND FACTS ABOUT FATHERHOOD
and REEVALUATING THE EVALUATORS

Every week in the news, every week, sometimes every day, men in custody cases and relationship separation cases rape, batter, and kill women and children. It’s below the fold on some inside page if at all, if it even makes the news at all. It happens again and again and again and again. (But when the relatively rare mother kills, it’s headline news for months.) And don’t forget the ubiquitous tittering by the neighbors, duly quoted for “balance” all about what a nice guy, and how he was tormented and so forth. Usually it’s written up as if it’s an inexplicable snapping, and too often without a whiff of mention of the nearly always-present reality of a history of his being a control freak or depressive and that she left him or threatened to leave him, or to take some of “his” property, or cause him loss generally by breaking up “his family”. (That last item, take note, is all about his surroundings and accutrements and possessions. It should not to be understood as “take his children” which is a specious use of faux projection by the propagandists, a pretext for the loss he’s actually flipping over.) And in the majority of the rest of those so-called one-in-ten-thousand cases, the ones in which he doesn’t kill, he’s still battering and abusing her through the court system, for years, over his custody “rights”. It’s got to stop.

People are calling for Judge Souk to resign. They should be calling for the ouster of the psychs as well, who mislead courts with snake oil and give them covers to hide behind. Let’s pinpoint exactly what the catalyst for this horrible, horrible failure of the court system was. A psych speculation as to risk, an opinion that had no business being uttered in court because psychs just don’t have these prediction skills.

More opinions:
When the Justice System Fails You
Another Family Wiped Out By Dad