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Helpful Information for Those in Marion County Courts

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I am trying to list some useful links for moms involved in litigation here in Marion County:

Current Marion County Magistrate Assignments, Marion Superior Court

Going Pro Se in Marion Superior Courts (video)

Family Court Information Sheet (required for new filings in Marion County)

Family Court Financial Declaration Form (latest one…08/18/08)

Also, here is a link to help assist with protective orders if needed.  The page with all the updated forms to prepare an application for orders of protection can be found here.  Understand that when protective orders are sought, it is only a piece of paper, they will not stop someone that is out to get you.  And potentially, seeking a protective order when involved in a custody dispute can potentially be used against you.  It is best to seek legal advice when involved in a situation such as this, but make sure you are away from your abuser and safe first!

Visit the Marion County Clerk of Court website for all the forms you need to potentially file.  Included is the civil subpoena form, for bringing witnesses to court for you.  If the filing fee for the case has been paid already (i.e. someone already filed for divorce), you may take a filled out civil subpoena form to the Clerk’s office (City-County Building downtown, Room W122) and file at no cost to you.  They will have them served to your witness, also at no cost. 

For those who have already been screwed by the family courts here, you only have 30 days to file notice of appeal.  If you can’t afford the typically $10,000 the lawyers want around here to just begin the process, here is a helpful link to look into.  Don’t be afraid to appeal…what is horrible is when a bad decision isn’t appealed, you and your children have to live with this decision until he practically kills the children, then maybe you might have a chance to change custody if they survive.

As always, it is best to seek legal advice from a qualified lawyer, but most of us can’t afford this.  Hopefully these links will help assist you in your situation.


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April 30, 2009 at 3:51 pm

Resources for Moms Around Indianapolis: Where to Call for Help

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From WTHR’s Community Page:


Where to Call for Help with Domestic Abuse

Where to Call for Help with Domestic Violence

24-Hour Hotlines

Domestic Violence Network of Greater Indianapolis Navigation Hub: “HELPLINE/2-1-1” at 317-926-HELP (4357)

Indiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-332-7385

Domestic Violence 205-HOPE

Crisis and Suicide Intervention Service 251-7575

National Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE
1-800-787-3224 (TDD)

Emergency and Law Enforcement

Emergency 911
Marion County Sheriff’s Department Victim Assistance 231-8124
Indianapolis Police Department Victim Assistance 327-3331
Adult Protective Services 1-800-992-6978
Child Abuse Hotline 1-800-800-5556
Center of Hope at Wishard Hospital ER 633-HOPE
VINE (Marion County Jail Release Notification) 1-800-278-8134
Marion County Prosecutor’s Office 327-8500

Advocacy, Support Groups and Counseling

Breaking Free 1-888-254-8988
Julian Center 941-2200
Family Advocacy Center 327-6900
Family Service 634-6341
Legacy House 554-5272
Prevail 773-6942
Wishard Hispanic Health Project 630-6636
Fresh Start of Indiana 541-1655

Resources for Families and Children

Prevent Child Abuse Indiana 1-800-CHILDREN
Indiana Family Helpline 1-800-433-0746
Family Support Center 634-5050
Teen Link Hotline 255-TEEN

Legal Assistance

Indiana Legal Services, Inc. 631-9410
Legal Aid Society 635-9538
Protective Order Pro Bono Project 638-7672

Financial Help

HELPLINE (Information and Referral) 926-4357
TANF/Medicaid/Medicare 931-2920

Shelters and Transitional Housing

Salvation Army / Ruth Lilly Center 317-637-5551
Julian Center Shelter 317-920-9320
Holy Family Shelter 317-635-7830
WINGS 317-251-7575
Queen of Peace 317-916-6753
Coburn Place Safe Haven (transitional housing) 923-5750

Produced by the Domestic Violence Network of Greater Indianapolis (317) 475-6110



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April 30, 2009 at 3:08 pm

Governor Daniels: Here is Some Background on the So-called “Parental Alienation Syndrome”

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From Battered Moms Lose Children to Abusers:

In 1985, PAS was first described by Richard Gardner, a psychiatrist who wrote that adults having sex with children is not a bad thing.[1]


Gardner described PAS as a “syndrome” whereby vengeful mothers employed child abuse allegations as a powerful weapon to punish ex-husbands and ensure custody to themselves.[2]  He further theorized that such protective parents enlisted the children in their “campaign of denigration” and “vilification” of the abuser, that they often “brainwashed” or “programmed” the children into believing untrue claims of abuse by the father, and that the children then fabricated and contributed their own stories.[3]


To distance themselves from the discredited theory and its embarrassing originator, proponents of Parental Alienation Awareness Day sometimes claim that Parental Alienation Syndrome and parental alienation are different.  In reality, they are often used synonymously and the consequences can be dire.  Children can end up in the custody of their abusers.   


Since 1985, abusers have come to convince family courts to ignore children’s allegations of abuse by invoking parental alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome.  They wrongly claim that mothers are to blame because they are brainwashing their children. 




1996 – The Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family discredited the theory.  It stated:

Although there are no data to support the phenomenon called parental alienation syndrome, in which protective parents are blamed for interfering with their children’s attachment to their abusers, the term is still used by some evaluators and courts to discount children’s fears in hostile and psychologically abusive situations.[4] Family courts often do not consider the history of violence between the parents in making custody and visitation decisions. . . . Psychological evaluators not trained in domestic violence may contribute to this process by ignoring or minimizing the violence and by giving inappropriate pathological labels to women’s responses to chronic victimization. Terms such as “parental alienation” may be used to blame the women for the children’s reasonable fear of or anger toward their violent abuser.[5]


2003 – The National District Attorneys Association’s Center for Prosecution of Child Abuse discredited the theory.  It stated:

Although PAS may be hailed as a “syndrome” . . . in fact it is the product of anecdotal evidence gathered from Dr. Gardner’s own practice. […] PAS is based primarily upon two notions, neither of which has a foundation in empirical research. […] PAS is an untested theory that, unchallenged, can have far-reaching consequences for children seeking protection and legal vindication in courts of law.”[6]



2006 – The American Bar Association’s Children’s Legal Rights Journal discredited the theory.  It stated:

PAS’s twenty-year run in American courts is an embarrassing chapter in the history of evidentiary law. It reflects the wholesale failure of legal professionals entrusted with evidentiary gate-keeping intended to guard legal processes from the taint of pseudo-science…. As a matter of science, law, and policy PAS should remain inadmissible in American courts.[7]


2006 – The
National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges also discredited the theory.  It stated:

The discredited “diagnosis” of “PAS” (or allegation of “parental alienation”), quite apart from its scientific invalidity, inappropriately asks the court to assume that the children’s behaviors and attitudes toward the parent who claims to be “alienated” have no grounding in reality. It also diverts attention away from the behaviors of the abusive parent, who may have directly influenced the children’s responses by acting in violent, disrespectful, intimidating, humiliating and/or discrediting ways toward the children themselves, or the children’s other parent.[8]





One of the most troubling consequences of Gardner’s theory is that, “PAS shifts attention away from the perhaps dangerous behaviour of the parent seeking custody to that of the custodial parent. This person, who may be attempting to protect the child, is instead presumed to be lying and poisoning the child.”[9]


As a result, some children placed in the custody of their abusers have committed suicide; others have run away, and countless others have endured the abuse and are permanently traumatized.  In recent years, children placed in custody of their abusers have been coming forward to tell their stories and to warn of the danger surrounding the fictitious syndrome.[10]


[2] Gardner, 1992a; 1992b

[3] (Gardner, 1992b, p. 162, 193; 2002, pp. 94-95). – Meier, J. (2009, January). Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation: Research Reviews. Harrisburg, PA: VAWnet, a project of the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence/Pennsylvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Retrieved 3/10/2009, from:

[4] Pg 40

[5] Pg 100

[9] Bruch, Carol S., Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation: getting It Wrong in Child Custody Case in Child and Family Law Quarterly, Vol 14, No 4, 2002: 384.




Our Governor Daniels has proclaimed April 25th as Parental Alienation Awareness Day.  I don’t believe this good, decent man would have signed off on this if he wouldn’t have been duped.  Duped by the simplified process to get a Proclamation here, which is an online process.  This can’t happen again!


See:  Our New Letter for the Press: The “Parental Alienation Awareness” Scam gets our Governor Mitch Daniels, It is Easy to Get a Day Proclaimed Anything in Indiana, Even for Pedophiles: Governor Mitch Daniels has been Duped by the Simplified Process!, Governor Daniels, While You Are Embracing “Parental Alienation” Other States Are Trying To Outlaw It, Governor Mitch Daniels Makes HUGE Mistake, and Dear Governor Mitch Daniels of Indiana


Help Get Justice For Little Katelynn

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2059 Signatures


Published by Indiana’s Shame Teardrops For Katelynn on Feb 22, 2005
Category: Children’s Rights
Region: United States of America
Background (Preamble):
Indiana’s Shame Teardrops for Katelynn

Sugar and spice and everything nice.

This is suppose to be every little girls life.

What happens when life is not like that?

What if the people who are suppose to protect you fill your life with constant abuse?

For little Katelynn of Indiana, her life is filled with this from a father, stepmother and father’s family; everyone but her the relatives that love her have been denied the ability to see her.

Note : this DOES NOT include 500+ additional pages of evidence


* Separate from abuser after assault by abuser.

* Little daughter returned by abuser hurt sees family doctor.

* Abuser assaults me and kids while trying to abducted little daughter.

* Police statements taken.

* Arrest warranted issued for abuser and protection order put in place. Other court Excludes little daughter from protection order.

* Abuser arrested outstanding bench warrant found in next county abuser extradited.

* Mninster of abusers church bails him out.

* File for divorce and temporary custody granted to me and restraining order placed Against abuser little daughter excluded from restraining order.

* Request Guardian Ad Litem for little daughter.

* Ad litem submits report recommends abuser vistis every weekend. Judge grants


* Temporary Order issued


* Letter from Domestic violence counselor abuser refuses contact via phone or in Person. Court does nothing.


* Little daughter crying of owie in butt from girlfriends son.

* Little daughter seen by family physician, refers to sexual abuse hospital.

* Little daughter is seen at sexual abuse hospital.

* Little daughter returned crying abuser’s girlfriend slapped in face, spanked repeadly for pottying in pants and is jerked out of bed. Little daughter seeing child psychololgist

* Little daughter returned crying is hurt when abuser and girlfriend involve little daughter in domestic violence fight. Abuser and girlfriend separate.

There is SO MUCH MORE TO THIS LIST.  This poor Indiana mother has endured much, and has been punished by the courts for trying to help her child.  SHAME ON INDIANA’S COURTS!
To see the full list, and to sign the petition, please visit the Petition Website.

Our thoughts are with Katelynn and her mom, Teardrops for Katelynn.

Our New Letter for the Press: The “Parental Alienation Awareness” Scam gets our Governor Mitch Daniels

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Call to Father's Rights folks on

Call to Father's Rights folks on

Governor Daniels has proclaimed April 25th as “Parental Alienation Awareness Day.”  We were shocked that he would sign off on this.  According to the inventor of this syndrome, Dr. Richard Gardner, children who have been subjected to sexual abuse should be taught to masturbate after the abuse stops, and mothers and daughters should make use of vibrators to manage the abuse from a father, as published by Dr. Gardner.

Father’s Rights groups have been running throughout the country this year trying to get governors to sign off on this egregious claim used in courts. Indiana has a very simplified online system that allowed the governor to be easily duped by this. Did Governor Daniels know that California and Tennessee have bills in their legislatures this spring to outlaw the claim of this in custody hearings? Did he know that Parental Alienation Syndrome is not recognized by any professional body and is generally used as a tool in an abuser’s toolbox to gain custody of the children?

These groups try very hard to get proclamations…they need some kind of endorsement. By signing, the website states the governor does not necessarily endorse. But our courts here eat this stuff up.

Mothers of Lost Children, Indianapolis


It is Easy to Get a Day Proclaimed Anything in Indiana, Even for Pedophiles: Governor Mitch Daniels has been Duped by the Simplified Process!

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Just how easy was it to get our Governor Mitch Daniels to sign the Proclamation of April 25th as “Parental Alienation Awareness Day?”  I went on a search for this…how could he be so easily scammed?  Well, look how easy it is for ANYONE to get a day proclaimed something, from the State of Indiana website:

Request a Proclamation

Proclamations are provided by the Governor’s Office as a service to Indiana residents with the goal of honoring and celebrating events or increasing awareness of noteworthy issues among citizens across Indiana. These public service documents are strictly honorary and are not legally binding. Proclamations are reviewed on a case-by-case basis. The Governor’s Office reserves the right to decline any request for a proclamation as well as the right to make exceptions to the Guidelines Procedures for Proclamations. To submit an application for a proclamation, please review the Guidelines below and submit a completed Application for Proclamation Form.

Here is an example of a signed proclamation.

Guidelines and Procedures

  • Proclamations should recognize a day or week.   The Governor’s Office reserves the right to deny month-long proclamations.
  • Proclamations are issued for one date only per request for each calendar year.
  • Requests must be submitted using the electronic form below; phone, fax and mail requests will not be honored.
  • Any draft language submitted may be edited or revised without notice at the discretion of the Governor’s Office.
  • Proclamations must hold statewide significance; out of state requests will not be processed.
  • Proclamations are not issued to honor individuals.
  • Only one official copy of a proclamation is provided. If a duplicate is requested, the first request will be honored at no cost. Any subsequent copies will be prepared at a charge of $5.00 each.
  • Proclamations are not automatically renewed. Requests must be made on an annual basis.
  • Requests that are similar to already issued proclamations will be denied.
  • No proclamations may be used as part of an advertisement or commercial promotion without express permission from the Governor’s Office.
  • Issuance of a proclamation does not constitute an endorsement by the Governor.
  • Requests must be submitted 6-8 weeks in advance of the requested delivery date. Requests recieved less than 2 weeks in advance of the requested delivery date will be denied.

 Date(s) of Proclamation:

Examples: August 5, 2007; August 20-27, 2007; or  August 2007

 Deadline for Proclamation:

Examples: August 5, 2007

 Purpose of Proclamation:

 Draft Language of Proclamation: (including 4-6 Whereas clauses)

 Additional Comments/Feedback:

Notification Preference Please select an option:Mail

This is a shame, a total shame, to have a day honoring a syndrome invented by a pedophile-loving psychologist, a syndrome not recognized by any professional body, a tool in the abuser’s toolbox to get custody away from his victim in court, and the courts in Indiana EAT THIS STUFF UP!

See also:  Governor Daniels, While You Are Embracing “Parental Alienation” Other States Are Trying To Outlaw It and Dear Governor Mitch Daniels of Indiana

Governor Daniels, While You Are Embracing “Parental Alienation” Other States Are Trying To Outlaw It

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Yes, Governor Daniels.  You may have been fooled by the Father’s Rights folks that push this, but you didn’t receive the “whole truth.”  Tennessee and California are trying to have claims of “parental alienation” banned in custody cases:

Tennessee HB 0322

Child Custody and Support – As introduced, abolishes the common law tort of parental alienation; prohibits parental alienation syndrome from being a factor to consider in a child custody dispute; and prohibits the use of a claim of parental alienation by a parent who has been found to be the perpetrator of child abuse to rebut the presumption that it is detrimental to the child to award custody to such parent. – Amends TCA Title 36.

California:  Several bills seek to reform family courts

Assemblyman Jim Beall, D-San Jose, has introduced a bill that would ban the use of “non-scientific theories” in court cases. This bill would prevent the use of a theory called “parental alienation syndrome,” or PAS. This is the idea that one parent seeks to alienate a child against the other parent, leading them to level untrue accusations of abuse or neglect.

“We want to change a harmful family court practice that apparently has gone unchecked for some time, resulting in innocent children being improperly placed,” Beall said. “This legislation requires family courts to follow the legal principals of accepted evidence. The bill ensures pseudo ‘syndromes’ are not used in custody determinations.”
While both mothers and fathers have leveled charges of PAS in custody cases, widespread anecdotal evidence suggests that it has more often been argued by fathers. Several fathers’ rights groups say PAS is real. However, it is not generally accepted by the psychiatric community.

Assembly majority leader Alberto Torrico, D-Fremont, said that he also may carry legislation. While he said budget negotiations have been taking up most of his time, he has submitted language to Legislative Counsel which would establish statewide standards for family court custody evaluations.

“That’s something we’re looking at to make sure we’re placing kids in the best, safest environment.”

Several other unbacked bills would seek to address other problems with family courts, said Kathleen Russell, staff consultant with the CJE. Among these ideas: allowing children to testify on their own behalf; removing the immunity of judges and court employees from being sued for misconduct; changing the law so court employees are subject to the California Whistleblowers Protection Act; charging courts, rather than parents, to pay for custody evaluators in order level the playing field between ex-spouses with disparate resources; and mandating that custody evaluators receive the standard 24 hour training curriculum on child sexual abuse put forth by the American Bar Association’s Center on Children and the Law.

“Children are being placed in dangerous homes without protection,” Russell said. “It’s reached epidemic proportions. We couldn’t be more pleased to have legislators step up to the plate.”

Russell just returned from a trip to Washington, D.C., where she and other advocates met with legislators, including members of the California delegation. She said she expects federal legislation to be coming soon. Because the federal government heavily underwrites family court costs in the states, it has a great deal of leverage to impose greater standards and consistency.

“We’re looking at the federal flow of funds to the state courts,” Russell said. “That is where the feds can intervene.”

Please, Governor Daniels, remove this proclamation of “Parental Alienation Awarenss Day” on April 25th as it only services and enables abusive parents to claim this in court to take total control of children away from good parents.  Other states realize this, it is time Indiana does too.

Also see:  Dear Governor Mitch Daniels of Indiana and Governor Mitch Daniels Makes HUGE Mistake,