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Parenting Coordination, a bad idea


  • Parenting coordination is an inappropriate delegation of the judicial function
  • Parenting coordination is an impediment to court access
  • Parenting coordination is a denial of due process
  • Parenting coordination violates privacy
  • The parenting coordinator concept encroaches on family liberty interests
  • Parenting coordination represents arbitrary dictate by a person, in denigration of rule of law
  • Parenting coordination is a make-work role newly invented by psychology trade promotion groups
  • No studies indicate parenting coordinators make good decisions
  • No studies indicate parenting coordination improves families’ lives or child wellbeing.
  • Nothing qualifies a stranger make family decisions for other people
  • Nothing qualifies a mental health professional to interpret a court order or legal document
  • Nothing qualifies any third party to “fill in the gaps” in someone else’s contract
  • There is no definition of what constitutes a successful parenting coordination
  • Parenting coordination does not, in the long term, alleviate court docket congestion
  • Parenting coordination provides a new forum for squabbling over petty disputes
  • Parenting coordination is an additional expense that many can ill afford
  • Parenting coordination enables one parent to spend the other’s funds
  • Parenting coordination is time-consuming and tedious
  • Parenting coordination is not confidential
  • Parenting coordination constitutes continuous government discovery, 4th Amendment
  • Parenting coordination constitutes continuous discovery by each parent into the affairs of the other
  • Parenting coordination does not result in increased family well-being
  • Parenting coordination does not make children happier, healthier, better adjusted
  • Parenting coordination is not therapy but coercion backed the state’s police power
  • Parenting coordinators tend to be hostile to, and at odds with attorney-client relationships
  • They align with guardians ad litem and other court appointees to “focus on the children”
  • They encroach on parental-child relationships and decision-making
  • They are given unwarranted authority to impose or recommend sanctions against parents
  • There are no studies of parenting coordination methods or techniques
  • There is no research into parenting coordinators’ efficacy, and there cannot be
  • Decisions are based on the parenting coordinator’s private agendas, values, and beliefs
  • Most parenting coordinators lack psychological insight
  • Parenting coordination is not “co-parenting therapy” which rarely works anyway
  • Mental health professionals are ignorant of the repercussions in law of their ideas
  • There is no valid “training” because there is no body of knowledge to base training on
  • Decisions are made without actual knowledge of people’s households and daily lives
  • Parenting coordination provides a forum for the arguing of minutiae, not just major decisions
  • Parenting coordinators frequently make bad decisions
  • The parenting coordinator has absolutely no incentive to work himself or herself out of a job
  • Parenting coordinators tend to be individuals who can’t make a go of practicing their profession
  • Many have axes to grind; others need to re-live and normalize their own family-of-origin issues
  • Parenting coordination is unregulated and practicably unable to be regulated
  • There is no effective oversight, and there cannot be
  • There is no recourse against the parenting coordinator for malfeasance or malpractice
  • Parenting coordinators have control to self-generate their work and churn fees
  • The claim of parenting coordinators that they sought this role in order to “help” people is specious
  • Parenting coordination proceedings are informal, outside court, and not subject to effective oversight
  • Parenting coordinators can report conversations and events differently from how they really happened
  • Parenting coordinator can cover themselves by blaming parents for the failure of the venture
  • Parenting coordinators give parents make-work at whim
  • Parenting coordinators may not have any personal parenting experience
  • Parenting coordinators may not have experience being primary caregivers, or as single parents
  • Many of those drawn to the field are by nature meddlers, incompetents, or petty tyrants
  • Parenting coordination is dangerous
  • Parenting coordinators have missed domestic violence
  • Parenting coordinators have assumed facts that are not true
  • Parenting coordinators have perceived emergencies or situations incorrectly
  • Parenting coordinators have mischaracterized events
  • Parenting coordinators have made egregious judgmental mistakes
  • Parenting coordinators have lied outright and there is no basis to presume their “good faith”
  • There are no ethical guidelines that practicably can be enforced
  • There are, and can be no enforceable practice parameters, only vague aspirational generalities
  • Parenting coordinators will be biased because of the nature of human relationships and the role
  • Court oversight is illusory because the parenting coordinator has more credibility than either parent
  • Court oversight is illusory because the parenting coordinator has the ear of the judge, and
  • because the parenting coordinator has relationships with supportive guardians ad litem, and
  • because the parenting coordinator has other courthouse referral relationships who will back him or her
  • Court oversight is illusory because it’s easy to claim a parent is uncooperative or lying
  • Court oversight is illusory because it’s expensive
  • or there is not enough time to get a hearing
  • or the party doesn’t have a lawyer post-decree, and
  • because the judge who appointed the parenting coordinator did so because he didn’t want to hear it
  •  Parenting coordination is proof that joint custody does not work 

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    1. Thanks for writing,I really enjoyed your newest post.I think you should post more frequently,you obviously have talent for blogging!

      Jack Home

      June 7, 2009 at 12:03 am

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