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Other States are Starting to Realize the Full Impact of Domestic Violence, Indiana Needs to Also

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This is from another friend and fellow advocate Dara Carlin from Hawaii. Sorry for the short notice, but this is happening today. It will be televised at 5:35 pm Eastern Daylight Time today, and you can watch it on the internet at the link below. Many Indiana state legislators fail to realize the full impact of domestic violence in this state, including courts giving child custody to abusers. We need to have an event like this also in Indiana.

 

 

Media AdvisoryHawaii House of Representatives

June 20, 2011 – For Immediate Release

Contact: Office of Rep. John Mizuno, Telephone: 808-586-6050, Cell: 808-741-0639

 

LAWMAKERS TO HOLD BRIEFING ON DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND HEAR CONCERNS FROM DOMESTIC VIOLENCE SURVIVORS AND DISCUSS THE NEED FOR POLICY CHANGE

 

Several domestic violence survivors will share their story of how they lost custody of their child(ren) to the abuser, even after a finding of domestic violence by the abuser

 

WHAT:            The House Human Services Chairman, Rep. John Mizuno, will hold a legislative briefing to address domestic violence in Hawaii.  Rep. Mizuno will identify certain concerns involving specific failures of the current “system” in adequately addressing domestic violence.  Rep. Mizuno will also be hearing from domestic violence victims, survivor advocates, and agencies working directly with domestic violence victims, issuing protective orders and temporary restraining orders.

The briefing will:

• Identify and address concerns regarding domestic violence in Hawaii

• Explain the reason for the various bills which seek to provide greater protection for domestic violence victims

• Explain the difficulties in passing measures which seek to improve the state’s system in handling domestic violence cases

WHEN:            Tuesday, June 21, 2011 – 11:35 a.m. Hawaii Standard Time (Televised in Hawaii on Ch. 53, for Neighbor Island residents and nationwide go to the internet www.olelo.org – click NATV Ch. 53 for online live stream coverage)

WHERE:           Hawaii State Capitol, Room 329

WHY:               Rep. Mizuno was contacted by several survivors of domestic violence who will be sharing their stories with lawmakers during the briefing. According to Rep. Mizuno, “It is extremely concerning to hear that time after time the abusers who beat our victims, many times end up gaining custody of the children.  Based on our victims’ testimonies and information provided by organizations and advocates for domestic violence victims, I believe our current system has many major flaws in properly addressing domestic violence issues.  Therefore, I am looking for solid solutions to better address domestic violence statewide at the conclusion of this briefing.”

Please Join Us For Another Rally in Washington D.C., February 13th and 14th

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Less than two weeks to go!  Remember, there is a meeting the evening of the 13th at the hostel where many are staying.  For information on the hostel…click here.

Make Plans to Attend the Battered Mothers Custody Conference VIII in New York This January

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In it’s eighth year, this next conference will focus on getting battered mothers connected with organizations. It is a powerful event and provides an excellent opportunity to network with other abused mothers dealing with child custody issues and advocates. Here is a video from one of the conferences several years ago, produced by Garland Waller of Boston University:

 


Battered Women, Abused Children, and Child Custody:

“A National Crisis”

The Eighth Annual Battered Mothers Custody Conference

BMCC VIII: “The Unity Conference”

January 7th, 8th, & 9th, 2011

(Friday evening, 6 p.m. – Sunday afternoon)

Holiday Inn Turf

205 Wolf Road, Albany, NY

(Five minutes away from Albany International Airport)

Reserve early to get the $99 conference rate!

Call: 1-800-HOLIDAY or 518-458-7250

Ask for the Battered Mothers Custody Conference block.

A major focus this year will be to connect battered mothers with organizations working locally, nationally, and internationally to combat unjust family court practices that continue to do untold harm to battered mothers and their children.

For updated details and registration, please visit www.batteredmotherscustodyconference.org.

Crisis in Family Courts: Abusers Getting Custody

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I had several dear friends on this recent show on Dr. Phil. Both mothers I know had their children killed by their fathers in horrible murder-suicides when the court ORDERED them to give the children to the father (even after death threats).

Times Up! No More Dead Children!

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Enough is enough! The general public still thinks that mothers don’t lose custody unless they’re nuts or sluts. But this article tells you the truth: the protective mother lost custody because she COULD NOT AFFORD AN ATTORNEY. She was outgunned by a lawyered-up Daddy who could buy what he wanted. Which was basically a 5-year-old girl he could rape, torture, and systematically starve. Everybody happy now?

New details emerge in death of Muncie 5-year-old

During a six-month period last fall and winter, more than a half dozen health care workers treated or observed serious problems with five year-old Lauren McConniel. It wasn’t until about a week before she died on March 9th from severe malnutrition, that her injuries were reported to child protective services.

Gene Cox Fox59

9:06 PM EDT, June 16, 2010

Muncie, Ind. –

During a six month period last fall and winter, more than a half dozen health care workers treated or observed problems with tiny Lauren McConniel.

It wasn’t until about a week before the five year-old Muncie girl died on March 9, 2010 of severe malnutrition that her injuries were reported to child protective services.

Court records show Lauren’s health detiorated once in the care of her father Ryan McConniel and step-mother Britany McConniel.

The Muncie Police Department’s lead detective in the case thinks health care workers would innocently believe what the parents were telling them about the, when added together, unusual injuries.

“I think the health care providers had been duped in some of this,” said Sgt. Jimmy Gibson.

Sgt. Gibson’s investigation uncovered that the first sign of alleged abuse came in November of last year.  It was a strange injury (severe eye trauma) followed weeks later with severe weight loss, bizarre behavior, head, bone, and vaginal injuries.

Ryan and Britany McConniel were arrested this month on felony child neglect charges.  Both remain behind bars in the Delaware County Jail.  Britany McConniel has no bond.

Nothing was reported to Indiana Child Protective Services until March 1, 2010.  Shortly after that Lauren was transferred in grave condition to an Indianapolis hospital.

Muncie police say they have no intention of launching a failure to report investigation targeting health care workers including doctors and nurses who treated Lauren in the months before her death.

Amber Huggins the little girl’s birth mother lost custody of Lauren late last year, FOX 59 has learned, because she could not afford an attorney to defend her custodial rights during divorce proceedings from her ex-husband Ryan McConniel.

According to court documents the 5 year old was in good health and happy at the time Huggins lost custody.

Wednesday afternoon Huggins described her heart after losing her daughter as, “broken.”

Her ex-husband Ryan and his new wife Britney McConniel remain in the Delaware County jail. Britney is being held without bond and bond for Ryan has been set at $30,000 cash.

Our deepest sympathies go to dear mother Amber Huggins, first for the loss of her daughter thanks to family court and next for her death at the hands of her daughter’s abusers.

Disturbing Trend of Punishing Mothers Who Failed to Protect Continues

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I just don’t get it.  Indiana judges and prosecutors go feverishly after battered women to punish them for a child that dies at the hands of a father or a male-figure in the household, yet will take children from mothers who report abuse.  What is wrong with these people?

Reflecting back on the recent conviction  Kristina Byers-Escobedo, from February 26th, 2010:

Kristina Byers-Escobedo sobbed quietly this morning as sheriff’s deputies led her from the courtroom of Judge Jane Woodward Miller in handcuffs.  Miller sentenced Byers-Escobedo to 30 years executed, denying the 31-year-old an opportunity for parole.

She also denied a request by Byers-Escobedo’s lawyer to allow his client one day to report in order to say goodbye to her young son.

“I cannot and will not give you additional time to report,” Miller said, explaining Byers-Escobedo should have already prepared the child for the possibility she would be imprisoned.

In sentencing Byers-Escobedo, Miller admonished the mother for failing to protect her daughter, 2-year-old Maya Escobedo, from the child’s father, Valentin Escobedo, who has been charged with murder in the child’s death.

“You told us you were protecting your family,” Miller said, referring to Byers-Escobedo’s explanation of why she ignored signs of abuse by Valentin Escobedo. “… I don’t know what you were protecting. I know what you were not protecting. You were not protecting the one person who was too young and too vulnerable to protect herself.”

WHAT A JOKE:  “You were not protecting the one person who was too young and too vulnerable to protect herself.” When mothers do, they lose their children. It is happening far too much here in Indiana.

And now Rachael Goodman has been harshly sentenced after pleading guilty to neglect.  Did she have any other choice, with Carl Brizzi promising to go full guns after her?  He won’t go after fathers sexually abusing their daughters (with medical proof at that!), but he’ll darned sure go after mothers.  Was she hoping with the guilty plea to avoid a long, harsh sentence, especially since she had been beaten by the perpetrator badly also?

An 18-year-old man was arrested early Thursday morning after his girlfriend and her 14-month-old daughter were taken to a hospital following a brutal beating that left the girl in extremely critical condition.

Rachel Goodman, who is also 14 weeks pregnant, was injured in the incident.  Investigators said some of her injuries came from trying to stop the beating.

Goodman’s mother, Rachel Goodman, pleaded guilty in November 2009 to neglect of a dependent and had agreed to testify against Chism.  Goodman faces a maximum sentence of 30 years in prison, but because she has no prior felony convictions, the entire sentence could be suspended.

(Grrrrr….she got 25 years with 5 years suspended, so much for rewarding her for helping convict the perpetrator).  Our sincere condolences go to Ms. Goodman for all she’s had to endure, and continues to endure from the mother-hating State of Indiana.  Best of luck to Ms. Byers-Escobedo on her appeal also.

Once again, the corrupt bastard judges of Marion County and Carl Brizzi are patting themselves on the back for taking down another mother, one way or the other.


What an Amazing Vigil at the White House on Mother’s Day

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Mothers of children being taken and given to abusers and rapists are tired of not being heard.  We won’t shut up, we won’t go away!  Here’s a video someone made that has some pictures from the vigil.  It’s awesome!

For the love of our children…


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April 25th is Abusers Awareness Day: Learn the Truth About Parental Alienation Syndrome

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In 1985, PAS was first described by Richard Gardner, a psychiatrist who wrote that adults having sex with children is not a bad thing.[1]

Gardner described PAS as a “syndrome” whereby vengeful mothers employed child abuse allegations as a powerful weapon to punish ex-husbands and ensure custody to themselves.[2] He further theorized that such protective parents enlisted the children in their “campaign of denigration” and “vilification” of the abuser, that they often “brainwashed” or “programmed” the children into believing untrue claims of abuse by the father, and that the children then fabricated and contributed their own stories.[3]

To distance themselves from the discredited theory and its embarrassing originator, proponents of Parental Alienation Awareness Day sometimes claim that Parental Alienation Syndrome and parental alienation are different.  In reality, they are often used synonymously and the consequences can be dire.  Children can end up in the custody of their abusers.

Since 1985, abusers have come to convince family courts to ignore children’s allegations of abuse by invoking parental alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome.  They wrongly claim that mothers are to blame because they are brainwashing their children.

PAS WIDELY DISCREDITED

1996 – The Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family discredited the theory. It stated:

Although there are no data to support the phenomenon called parental alienation syndrome, in which protective parents are blamed for interfering with their children’s attachment to their abusers, the term is still used by some evaluators and courts to discount children’s fears in hostile and psychologically abusive situations.[4] Family courts often do not consider the history of violence between the parents in making custody and visitation decisions. . . . Psychological evaluators not trained in domestic violence may contribute to this process by ignoring or minimizing the violence and by giving inappropriate pathological labels to women’s responses to chronic victimization. Terms such as “parental alienation” may be used to blame the women for the children’s reasonable fear of or anger toward their violent abuser.[5]

2003 – The National District Attorneys Association’s Center for Prosecution of Child Abuse discredited the theory. It stated:

Although PAS may be hailed as a “syndrome” . . . in fact it is the product of anecdotal evidence gathered from Dr. Gardner’s own practice. […] PAS is based primarily upon two notions, neither of which has a foundation in empirical research. […] PAS is an untested theory that, unchallenged, can have far-reaching consequences for children seeking protection and legal vindication in courts of law.”[6]

2006 – The American Bar Association’s Children’s Legal Rights Journal discredited the theory. It stated:

PAS’s twenty-year run in American courts is an embarrassing chapter in the history of evidentiary law. It reflects the wholesale failure of legal professionals entrusted with evidentiary gate-keeping intended to guard legal processes from the taint of pseudo-science…. As a matter of science, law, and policy PAS should remain inadmissible in American courts.[7]


2006 – The
National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges also discredited the theory. It stated:

The discredited “diagnosis” of “PAS” (or allegation of “parental alienation”), quite apart from its scientific invalidity, inappropriately asks the court to assume that the children’s behaviors and attitudes toward the parent who claims to be “alienated” have no grounding in reality. It also diverts attention away from the behaviors of the abusive parent, who may have directly influenced the children’s responses by acting in violent, disrespectful, intimidating, humiliating and/or discrediting ways toward the children themselves, or the children’s other parent.[8]

CONSEQUENCES

One of the most troubling consequences of Gardner’s theory is that, “PAS shifts attention away from the perhaps dangerous behaviour of the parent seeking custody to that of the custodial parent. This person, who may be attempting to protect the child, is instead presumed to be lying and poisoning the child.”[9]

As a result, some children placed in the custody of their abusers have committed suicide; others have run away, and countless others have endured the abuse and are permanently traumatized. In recent years, children placed in custody of their abusers have been coming forward to tell their stories and to warn of the danger surrounding the fictitious syndrome.[10]


[1] www.stopfamilyviolence.org/373

[2] Gardner, 1992a; 1992b

[3] (Gardner, 1992b, p. 162, 193; 2002, pp. 94-95). – Meier, J. (2009, January). Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation: Research Reviews. Harrisburg, PA: VAWnet, a project of the National Resource Center on Domestic Violence/Pennsylvania Coalition Against Domestic Violence. Retrieved 3/10/2009, from: http://www.vawnet.org

[4] Pg 40

[5] Pg 100

[6] http://www.ndaa.org/publications/newsletters/update_volume_16_number_6_2003.html

[7] http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/media/Hoult_PAS_admissibility.pdf

[8] http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/media/NCFCJ%20guidebook%20final_2006.pdf

[9] Bruch, Carol S., Parental Alienation Syndrome and Parental Alienation: getting It Wrong in Child Custody Case in Child and Family Law Quarterly, Vol 14, No 4, 2002: 384.

[10] http://www.courageouskids.net

Indiana CPS: Accessories to Murder

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A major flaw I believe with how Indiana CPS conducts investigations is that the abused children are often interviewed in the presence of the alleged perpetrator.  I have seen it myself.  My own children were quizzed about abuse in the presence of their abuser (their father) after reporting to mandated reporters at school that they had been abused.  Because my children are in a custody dispute, CPS really did not investigate.  They did not know the children were coached what to say to CPS by the abuser and were paid money to entice them into compliance.   Everything was dropped.

As I was looking around for more information on the two dear children who died in Vanderburgh County on Saturday morning in the house fire, Alyssa and Caleb Lynch, I found this in the comments on CBS News:

by evillegirl47715 April 13, 2010 3:25 PM EDT
I am from this area and I know people who work in the two children’s school. The latest hearsay is that there were traces of duck tape found on the bed where the children’s bodies were located. So it is suspected that the SICK BASTARD taped the children to the bed and then set the house on fire.

It is very likely that the flippant attitude by Indiana CPS in disregarding abuse allegations very well lead to the children’s deaths.  Jeff Weisheit, most likely panicked by the allegations, decided to do the children in after being reported by the children’s father and grandfather for abusing them:

  • Alyssa and Caleb Lynch were both recently in Panama City Florida celebrating a birthday almost 2 weeks ago with both my Father Joseph Lynch Jr. and Brother Steven Lynch. Caleb and Alyssa both notified my father and brother that Lisa’s boyfriend (Jeff Wesheit) was hitting them. Both my father and brother contacted CPS in Indiana about the incedent and nothing happened. Now our family has lost two wonderful children to the hand of a wicked man. The same man Lisa Lynch had an affair with while still married to my brother, ending their marriage. Joseph Michael Lynch 3rd

    Apr. 12, 2010 2:17pm EDT | from michaellynch

If Indiana CPS personnel took their jobs seriously, they could have put the children into protective custody until an investigation was done PROPERLY.  No, CPS seems bound determined to take children from good parents and leave them with abusers.  Indiana CPS needs to be held accountable and charged as accessories to murder.

Read the Probable Cause Affidavit here.  It indicates they found traces of duct tape on the children, indicating at least one was bound to the bed before the fire was started.

Also see ATTENTION INDIANA: CPS Lets Two More Children Die, When Will Someone Do Something About Them?

ATTENTION INDIANA: CPS Lets Two More Children Die, When Will Someone Do Something About Them?

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Two more dear children died this past weekend in a house fire.  Dear Alyssa and Caleb Lynch lost their lives when mom’s fiance set fire to their house and left them to burn up while mom was at work.  The two children were recently with their father to celebrate a birthday, and the children told their father and grandfather that the fiance, Jeff Weisheit, was hitting and mistreating them.  Both the father and grandfather reported this to Indiana Child Protective Services over two weeks ago, and nothing was done about it.  NOTHING.

Now the children are dead.  Hope you all are sleeping well at night….their dear mother and father aren’t.

A short excerpt from WLWT:

Sheriff: ‘This Is Tough Stuff’

Weisheit is also facing charges in Indiana in connection with a fatal fire.

In Indiana, Vanderburgh County deputies said rescue crews were called to the fire at 10040 Fisher Road at about 4 a.m. Saturday.Fire crews said that the home was engulfed in flames when they arrived. Neighbors told firefighters that Weisheit lived at the home with his fiancée, Lisa Lynch, and her two children, Alyssa, 8, and Caleb, 5. Lynch was at work at the time of the fire.When deputies could not find Weisheit, an alert was put out to find him. That’s what led to the chase in Boone County. Indiana officials said that firefighters found the bodies of two children inside Weisheit’s home. The bodies have been taken to the Vanderburgh County Coroner’s Office for an autopsy and positive identification.

“This is tough stuff,” Vanderburgh County Sheriff Eric Williams said. “The fire was put out, and our people, along with German Township, began searching through that debris and as a result of that search we recovered two deceased children that were burned badly.”Investigators said they believe the fire was intentionally set.  Covington police said that Weisheit admitted to setting the fire and that he knew the children were in the home at the time.

And look here in the comments:

  • Alyssa and Caleb Lynch were both recently in Panama City Florida celebrating a birthday almost 2 weeks ago with both my Father Joseph Lynch Jr. and Brother Steven Lynch. Caleb and Alyssa both notified my father and brother that Lisa’s boyfriend (Jeff Wesheit) was hitting them. Both my father and brother contacted CPS in Indiana about the incedent and nothing happened. Now our family has lost two wonderful children to the hand of a wicked man. The same man Lisa Lynch had an affair with while still married to my brother, ending their marriage. Joseph Michael Lynch 3rd
    Apr. 12, 2010 2:17pm EDT | from michaellynch
  • In regards to the murder of Alyssa, and Caleb Lynch. These two beautiful children were my Neice and Nephew. I am thankful that police were able to apprehend the monster responsible, however this will never bring back these children. Joseph Michael Lynch 3rd
    Apr. 12, 2010 1:59pm EDT | from michaellynch

May this dear family get some justice for these horrible deaths.  Just because a broken family is involved…just because it involves children of divorce doesn’t mean you can keep blowing this off.  Run everyone into prison who works for CPS and has blown off child abuse charges, because too many children are paying the ultimate price here in Indiana.  May little Alyssa and Caleb rest in peace.

Also see Indiana CPS: Accessories to Murder

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So-Called Parental Alienation Syndrome Used to Excuse Violent Murderers

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Who can ever forget Stuart Showalter blaming Angie Warnock for her own death, claiming it was so-called “parental alienation syndrome” when she sought protective orders because she feared her violent husband.  Sadly those protective orders didn’t save her.  Angie was stabbed to death on Father’s Day last year in front of their two daughters when Joseph Warnock broke into the home.

Other women who have died brutally at the hands of violent partners or ex-partners were profiled on ABC New’s Nightline last week.  Tiana Notice has a foundation set up to continue to speak out about violence against women.  In Illinois, a law was passed in Cindy Bischoff’s name to require GPS tracking, although it is being fought by Chicago father’s rights lawyer Jeffery Leving, who recently wrote an article excusing men’s behaviors for killing women.  Seems like Jeffery Leving and Stuart Showalter are cut from the same bolt of bullshit cloth.


Silent Vigil to be Held at The White House on Mother’s Day

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MOTHERS DAY AT THE WHITE HOUSE

In the somber spirit of the U.S. suffragettes, the Argentine Mothers of the Disappeared, the Turkish Saturday Mothers, the German Rose Street Women, and most recently, the Liberian women who stopped a civil war, we are gathering at the White House to ask our President to meet with our delegates and to help stop the systematic removal and oppression of our children by family court.

Peaceful silent vigil at the White House in Washington DC

Sunday May 9, 2010 from 11:00 am until at least 2:00 pm.

Exact location TBD. We are requesting a permit for Penn Ave and 14th.

We will bring white ‘Mothers of Lost Children’ tshirts, white scarves and handouts. Be sure to bring water bottles, powerbars, suntan lotion, dark glasses, umbrella. Reserve hotels soon (unless you travel by night on a bus and don’t stay in DC).

A few suggestions for posterboard signs to bring with you to hold:

  • Children are taken from safe mothers and forced to live with abusers. Why?
  • I gave birth to a beloved daughter: Her batterer has custody.
  • I gave birth to a cherished son: His identified molester has custody.
  • I gave birth to three precious children: Our violator has custody.
  • I fear judicial retaliation: What country IS this? (if a scarf is over your face)
  • Mr. President, please stop the children’s suffering.

We are compiling one page stories into a booklet. If you would like to contribute factual information and quotes, especially words from your children, send them to us (mothersoflostchildren@gmail.com). You don’t need to give any identifying information. Also, contact us to connect with others in your region who plan to come. Come early or stay later in the week to visit your Congressmembers, if you wish. Just find the name and make an appointment with him/her, or his/her staffer!

http://www.senate.gov/general/contact_information/senators_cfm.cfm

https://writerep.house.gov/writerep/welcome.shtml ;